Warning: I stopped chasing promotions after my boss in Seattle told me 'the extra 15k a year isn't worth your weekends'

I was grinding for a manager title for 3 years, but seeing him stressed and missing his kid's games made me rethink the whole ladder. Has anyone else stepped back from a promotion they thought they wanted?

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patricia6343mo ago

Honestly, the bigger thing people miss is how a promotion can lock you into a lifestyle you can't easily step down from. That extra money gets spent fast on a bigger mortgage or nicer car, and then you're TRAPPED in that high stress job because you need the cash. It's a golden handcuff situation that nobody talks about until it's too late.

mila5263mo ago

Totally feel this lol. Got a raise last year and immediately upgraded my apartment, now the car payment feels huge. You start living right at the edge of that new paycheck and the idea of a lower stress job seems impossible because you'd have to sell everything. It's a wild trap to fall into.

linda_murphy1mo ago

@patricia634 is acting like people get promotions and immediately buy a 5 bedroom house. Lots of people get raises and just... save the money or pay off debt. I know a guy who got a big promotion and still drives his 2012 Honda. You can take the money without letting it own you. It's really not that serious unless you make it that serious.